Signs to look out for in a failing relationship.

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Want to know if your relationship is about to hit the skids?

Looking for tell-tale signs that your love will last through next week?

Well, look no further. Below you'll find the "Unlucky 13" -13 warning signs you're about to get dumped.

We surveyed a variety of experts to find the most common warning signs a person is about to get dumped --including psychologists, body language experts, graphologists, investigators and a divorce attorney. And here's what we found:

1. Is it romantic Armageddon, or just uncomfortable shoes?

Where the toes point, the heart follows. According to body language expert Patti Wood, MA, CSP, you should, "look at your sweetie's feet when you are out with other people." She says, "if they are pointed at you, great." If they're pointed at someone else, your partner may be looking to walk.

2. You're starting to feel like a telemarketer.

Is your sweetie anxious to end phone conversations right away? A person who knows he's going to end the relationship with you, but hasn't done so yet will be itching to get off the phone with you. If he is talking to you, but not adding anything to the conversation it's sign he is heading towards the finish line. He's probably just pacing himself.

3. He's no longer interested in sex, or worse, he has a new bag of tricks and a trapeze with the tags still on it.

A dramatic change in sexual behavior can mean two things:

a) He wants to avoid any situation where he might have to express emotion or attachment to you, or

b) He's getting it somewhere else.

4. He avoids talking about the future.

We're not just talking the general, garden-variety aversion that men have to discussing relationships. We're talking about a man who avoids having one of those "we have to talk" talks like it's a shot of the Plague. As for the future, when next Thursday seems like too much of a commitment, it could be because he's trying to extricate himself by Wednesday night.

5. He says, "I need some space" or "I think we should see other people."

According to psychologist Jesse Rabinowitz, PhD, people don't usually want to hurt someone else, so they use "exit strategies." By telling you he wants to see other people, he's not technically breaking up with you (so no big crying scene to endure) but he's given himself a way out. Of course, the second he gets a little distance, he's going to make a run for it.

6. If he's looking left, something's not right.

According to Bill Raduenz, private investigator, a person who looks up into the air and to the left when he speaks to you is "not being truthful." The look left is an indication we're using the "creative" side of our brains and a good indicator he's telling you a whopper.

7. He gives you that little pat on the back.

Watch out for this one. A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uneasy. According to Raduenz, the "hand pat" on the back indicates someone is uncomfortable with what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort they feel.

8. You don't like what you see in the mirror.

People mirror each other's body language when they are in love with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. If you're noticing the two of you are out of sync, you probably are.

9. You see the writing on the wall.

According to graphologist Karen Weinberg, QDE, a person who is thinking of ending a relationship will show clues in his handwriting. When writing the word "love" he may begin to drop down the letter "e." Another sign to watch for is if your partner diminishes the size of your name (sign of your importance to him.)

10. Every normal person should know which way the toilet paper goes...

If he's picking silly fights, or there's an unusual increase in emotional distance, you've got bad news.

According to Melvyn Frumkes, an attorney specializing in divorce, "a person who picks nonsensical arguments is trying to get the other person (you) to make the first move."

11. He keeps you waiting. And waiting. And waiting.

"Time is an important non-verbal communicator," says Wood. If he keeps you waiting, it's a sign his interest is waning, and a sign of disrespect.

This is true for dates as well. If he starts waiting until the very last minute to make date plans with you, it's likely he's lost interest, or he's hoping something better will come along and he's using you as a back-up.

12. He buys a personal pager, or a pre-paid cell phone.

This is bad news. Just about every private investigator in the book will tell you the pager purchase is a sign of impending heartbreak. Sure, it could be for work, but more likely, he's using it to get a head start on his post-you life. Beep Beep - Bye Bye.

13. He used to be a three-blue-shirts-and-four-pair-of-Chinos kind of guy, and suddenly he's obsessed with Armani.

According to Frumkes, a person who is about to leave (or is cheating) will take greater care with his appearance - updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working out and even changing cologne. If your sweetie looks like he just finished taping an episode of "A Makeover Story" - Those Chinos might not be the only dud he's looking to lose.

Want to know when you're most likely to get the axe? Most experts agree it's somewhere in the neighborhood of the first 3-5 months. So, stock up on tissues and Ben & Jerry's if you're heading into the danger zone.

Only time (and his shoes) will tell.

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder or ADHD

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is generally considered to be a developmental disorder, largely neurological in nature, affecting between 3 and 5% of the population. The disorder typically presents itself during childhood, and is characterized by a persistent pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity, as well as forgetfulness, poor impulse control or impulsivity, and distractibility. Although often referred to in conjunction with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), ADD is, in fact, not a documented diagnosis, and this common misuse of the terminology actually refers to ADHD predominantly inattentive type.

Diagnosis:
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV-Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR), the following criteria must be met for a person to be diagnosed with Attention-Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder.

A. Six or more of the following symptoms of inattention have been present for at least 6 months to a point that is disruptive and inappropriate for developmental level:

• 1. Often does not give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities.
• 2. Often has trouble keeping attention on tasks or play activities.
• 3. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.
• 4. Often does not follow instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions).
• 5. Often has trouble organizing activities.
• 6. Often avoids, dislikes, or doesn't want to do things that take a lot of mental effort for a long period of time (such as schoolwork or homework).
• 7. Often loses things needed for tasks and activities (e.g. toys, school assignments, pencils, books, or tools).
• 8. Is often easily distracted.
• 9. Is often forgetful in daily activities.

B. Six or more of the following symptoms of hyperactivity-impulsivity have been present for at least 6 months to an extent that is disruptive and inappropriate for developmental level:

Hyperactivity

• 1. Often fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat.
• 2. Often gets up from seat when remaining in seat is expected.
• 3. Often runs about or climbs when and where it is not appropriate (adolescents or adults may feel very restless).
• 4. Often has trouble playing or enjoying leisure activities quietly.
• 5. Is often "on the go" or often acts as if "driven by a motor".
• 6. Often talks excessively.

Impulsivity

• 1. Often blurts out answers before questions have been finished.
• 2. Often has trouble waiting one's turn.
• 3. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games).

II. Some symptoms that cause impairment were present before age 7 years.

III. Some impairment from the symptoms is present in two or more settings (e.g. at school/work and at home).

IV. There must be clear evidence of significant impairment in social, school, or work functioning.

V. The symptoms do not happen only during the course of a Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Schizophrenia, or other Psychotic Disorder. The symptoms are not better accounted for by another mental disorder (e.g. Mood Disorder, Anxiety Disorder, Dissociative Disorder, or a Personality Disorder).

History:

Some sources claim to have identified historical and literary references to ADHD before 1900, however, the condition we refer to as "ADHD" dates to the mid-twentieth century, when physicians developed a diagnosis for a set of conditions variously referred to as "minimal brain damage", "learning/behavioural disabilities" or "hyperactivity".

In 493 BC, physician-scientist Hippocrates described a condition that seems to be compatible with what we now know as ADHD. He described patients who had "quickened responses to sensory experience, but also less tenaciousness because the soul moves on quickly to the next impression". Hippocrates attributed this condition to an "overbalance of fire over water”. His remedy for this "overbalance" was "barley rather than wheat bread, fish rather than meat, water drinks, and many natural and diverse physical activities."

Taken from Wikipedia

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